Time to Get Back To Basics
You reached for your fun for daily, well lets face it more like minute-by-minute play of what is going in the world of social media, and its gone. Just like flipping off a light switch your connection to, well, everything was gone. What do you do now? How do you connect now? Your business is essentially solely ran on Facebook and Instagram, how are you going to connect with your client base or let them know what is going? How long is this going to be happening for? Three hours in you are panicking, what is Jenny up to? Is she beating me in likes? AM I going to have to go door to door to show people what I ate for lunch? How will I argue with people I have never met and don’t even really care about?
Did the Facebook outage scare you?
Many memes have been posted, some funny and some scarily enough are true. Don’t get me wrong, I use Facebook to stay connected with family and friends and I have groups were for each business I run and a book club, and God knows what other groups I belong to. Facebook is a part of our every day lives and the question we really need to be asking ourselves is why? I was looking at all the memes on Tuesday, I was at work when social media went down on Monday, so I really didn’t notice, but as I was reading these memes and laughing at some of them, I was struck by how out of touch we really are for how connected we appear to be.
Social media is a great to advertise and you can get clients from all over the world, literally. However, it is a platform that has gone seriously wrong. I haven’t really read much on the Whistleblower regarding Instagram and Facebook, but I will, however, I don’t need a whistleblower to tell me how wrong we have become in the light of social media and technology.
The problem…we depend on it. We crave it. We have to have it, its literally an addiction. The drama, the hype, the negativity and strife it is causing, when really it was a great idea to be a way to connect with family and friends who live overseas or across the country. It had potential to be a great resource but now it has become a cause for great concern.
Just yesterday I was looking at some of the posts my friends have done, and I see people who are supposed to be family acting like toddlers and fighting right there online because they don’t agree on the vaccine and they are literally just not going to associate with one another anymore, well, except to continue to fight back and forth on social media, but in person they are just done. They never want to see each other again, but heaven forbid the other gets the last word on social media.
Friends, it is past time to get back to basics. Yes basic. What I mean is we need to connect in person, not on social media. We need to rediscover the lost art of writing a hand written card, note or letter and sending it in the actual mail. I mean, write a letter, put it in an envelope (its those little white papery things everyone hates to lick to seal! Actually they come in all kinds of sizes and colors now.), address it, (no hon, not with their email address, their house address. Yes, their homes have an address), and put a stamp on it and put in the mailbox, (you know, that box outside your house that occasionally a guy in a uniform puts stuff into). Why this over an email? Let me tell you, its about the personal touch, it says you thought about them and actually put time an effort into connecting with them.
Its time to bring back personal connections and conversations. I love my online book club, because people can attend who don’t live nearby and that is amazing, but what about the people close to you, in your church, at work, in your neighborhood? Let’s bring those back.
Now I know, COVID is real and its a thing, but why are we letting it keep us further disconnected? Fear. That is it. Fear. Suddenly people fear getting sick, yet, save a few who legitimately had a right to fear getting sick, we are living our lives in fear. We are disconnecting from everyone around because the government tells us it is safer. Take a look at the mental health issues that are climbing, it is not safer. People need to connect with people. We need human connection and yes, there is a real possibility you might get sick, but friends, we were never guaranteed to live forever. Mortality is not promised or a reality for any of us. Kids need to be outside playing with each other. We watched, ‘Dennis the Mennis’, the other day and let me tell you, watching those kids outside playing, building treehouses, causing trouble (yeah I said it), and just being kids, was something I do not see anymore. Kids are holed up in their homes and hidden from everyone. No more group hockey in the road, or riding bikes together. Its kind of sad really. We need more community connections again.
Even with my businesses I am planning to move my groups off Facebook and to spend more time connecting individually with my clients and customers. Go back to sending out catalogues and sending Thank You cards in the mail. All that sincere and fun stuff that we have forgotten.
We need to be more connected and plugged in to our families, our churches, our communities and especially with God. We need to be more involved with our families that we are with the lives of virtual strangers on social media. We need to go back to parenting our kids and teaching basic values and morals, so that they don’t grow up thinking its okay to bully someone from behind a screen. Internet bullying is a topic for another day, but an important one. We need to be sitting face-to-face with the people we care about and showing them that we care about them. That they matter in our lives.
It is also time to take Facebook down to the bare minimum. To keep family and friends we love and delete everyone else. It should be a place to show of our kids and families, our pets and our lives to those we love and know. Use it for what it should have been created for, not stalking your ex or his new girlfriend. Not stalking the hot girls and guys at your college and bullying the unpopular kids at school. We are seriously lacking in a lot of areas in our lives, myself included. Humanity is seriously lacking. Its time to tell Social Media, we are done allowing you cause more division and strife in our homes, our families and all of our relationships.