When Our Children Walk Through Fire.

The parenting handbooks don’t prepare you for the last couple weeks we have had. Long story short, my son has been having issues at his school and mom has not entirely handled it well. In fact, M has handled it better than I have and that is saying a lot. I have been angry and somewhat hostile toward his school administration, because as a mom, I am angry and my heart hurts for my child. The thing is I have been looking at this from a mom perspective, which is not entirely wrong, but the lenses can get cloudy at times.

It took a student I was talking to on the phone to allow me to see that I have been looking at this the wrong way. I need to look at through the eyes of God, harder to do. While I may not understand why my child is going through the fire he is going through, fire refines, and he will come through this strong and closer to God. His faith and his spirit are being refined. 1 Peter 7: These trials will show that your faith is genuine. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold – though your faith is far more precious than gold. So, when your faith is strong through many trials, it will bring you much praise, glory and honor on the day Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world. His faith is being tested. My faith is being tested. As I talked to this student, she reminded me that Satan does not talk anyone who he feels is not a threat, he attacks those that are a threat to him.

Our mom lenses can be extremely foggy when it is our child being attacked. We want to go on the offensive, strike back, when in reality we need to hit the ground on our knees. Satan knows we are more powerful than any human weapon when we are on our knees. It is not our place to seek the revenge that our human mom lenses want to seek. Romans 12:19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. Satan wants us to seek revenge, because then we are not doing what God wants us to do. We are not trusting him in the fire. It’s like I have told my children when they seek revenge on their siblings, if you take it upon yourself to punish your sibling, then I have been taken out of the equation. They don’t deserve to be punished twice and you took it upon yourself to punish them. It is the same with God. If we seek revenge, we have effectively placed ourselves in God’s position instead of letting Him, in all his infinite wisdom and understanding, handle it. Just as my kids did with their offending sibling.

As this student, a complete stranger, assured me that my son will be alright, that he is being tested and God has His hand upon his life, I reminded myself that I need to take off the mom lenses and see the situation as God refining my child. It is hard to see our children struggle and to be attacked, but it is even harder to step back and let God be in control. Yes, we need to have our children’s back, and yes, we do need to protect them, but we also need to give them room to grow and to learn to depend on God. Our children can’t grow into the men and women God is developing them to be if we stand in His way. That doesn’t mean we don’t stand up for our children, but it does mean that every step we take in that stand, has to glorify God, not the revengeful human side of us.

God has trusted us with the care and upbringing of these little people but ultimately, they are His children. I think of Mary, raising her own savior and wonder how she must have felt knowing that the baby she carried, the child she raised, the man she watched do God’s work, was going to save the world. Just as Mary was raising up a child that was God’s child, while certainly not on the same level, we are doing the same. We have a responsibility to our children to allow them to grow their faith, walk through the fire and love them through it.

Even as I sit her writing this, it is hard for me. I love my children and I want to protect them from all the evil of this world; however, they will then not be capable of taking on the evil of this world. They won’t be equipped to fight these battles on a spiritual level if we do the fighting for them. They need to learn about the armor of God and how to use it fight these spiritual battles. Our battles, while through human eyes appear to be flesh and blood, we know that the truth is the battle is with the spiritual world. Satan is using those who allow him to use them, to attack us. I say that loosely, as most don’t know that they are being used by Satan,

The next time your child is walking through fire, fall to your knees and allow them to go through it, don’t try to lift them over it and protect them from it. They will be stronger for it, you will be stronger for it and as mom (or dad) you will learn more about releasing control of your child to God.

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! Until the next Scribble…be blessed.

Author: Anchored with Truth

I always struggle with writing about myself. The most important thing is that I am a child of God. I have been blessed with four amazing children who are my heart. Writing has always been something that I have loved to do. Aside from being a child of God and a mom, I am me. As simple and as complicated as that sounds, I am me. i am not perfect, I make mistakes daily. I choose to live each day giving others grace and being kind to those who deserve it and especially to those who do not. When I am not writing, cleaning or doing the mom thing, I am probably in my kitchen, which is my favorite room of the house. I love to cook. I also love to organize and be organized. Life is definitely better when its organized, though nothing compares to love that Jesus gives us daily.

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